i did it
Very calmly.
"i don't feel comfortable with you spending time with Leah"
"I am not comfortable with you going and doing bonding family type things with Leah and Teaghan"
"isn't the fact that it upsets me and makes me uncomfortable enough?"
"i am not mormon. 2 girlfriends doesn't sit right with me"
"than we need some time apart"
he left. About 2 hours later the texting started .......... by him
he loves me and doens't want to lose me over this. I love him too, but I am tired of dating Leah too. I am standing my ground and it sucks.
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Make SURE you reassure time and time again how you DO support him and Tea....... that she is welcome to come join you guys! Just tell him you want to define and seperate... time with mom.... and time with 'dad'. Tell him how great it is for her to be a part of a 'healthy' family and you want to be a part of role modeling that to her. He has an opportunity to allow her to be a part of a healthy, supportive family... with rules and accountability....
Make sure you are clear to him that it's not just about you... but what is best for Tea and Charley too. Make sure he knows you are not asking him to spend less time with Tea... just leaving the mom out....!
Hoping all goes well for you!
i have and did.
during text......... "me charlotte and tea are the only women you need to worry about. We are your family. Past relationships are the passed"
"the only one you need to worry about driving is Tea. It is not your problem or mine about Leahs situation"
and I have asked .... "what is the difference between Leah and I"
Good. I wasn't implying that you hadn't already made that clear.... just making sure. Really, you are being more than reasonable and it's up to him to grow some balls and stand up to HER. I imagine he is just afraid of loosing contact with Tea. BUT if he is really careful how he presents it to mom.... making it all about what is best for Tea.... how he would like to draw some boundaries for her give her some clear lines.... two dependable homes.... blah blah. As long as he sugar coats it and TOTALLY leaves you out of the conversation with her (or it won't go well at ALL) ... and makes it only about what is best for Tea.
my point EXACTLY.
if it were truly about Teag than Leah should not have a problem. but seeing as she does.......its obviously about more than the kid and she needs to get her claws out of MY boyfriend and his wallet!
he is stupid.
he won't sugar coat it for her. Its gonna be a scene. but i am not going to be around to see it if he doens't make his stand against HER! Just as you said......grow some balls mntn and stand up to the right woman!
I am cutting a deal .........
bottom line is I love him.
I am the DAting Queen. I know what colour the grass on the other side is.
FAct is ..... this is the only bur in my saddle.
he is willing to figure it out. I gotta figure it out with him.
one of the things that has come up is that he doens't like my blog.
I told him fine. Its already private, but if you'd rather I just send out a world e-mail to my posse instead........
I'm sure it will comeup again and I will be willing to negotiate.
he is on his way.......i gotta go.
its hard to see anyhow as my eyes are real swollen from crying.
Blog On!
Awww.... hugs. Something he needs to understand is this is more than a blog for you... it's a support network. ::) I will be thinking of you! I can't believe you will be in my area tomorrow! Really, really close!
he has assured me.......
good for you! i think you are awesome!
You are doing the right thing so stick to your guns. This issue keeps coming up and up again ... it's not going away until you both sit and sort it. Good luck.
I remain hopeful but skeptical. I love you and want you to be happy but never at a cost that makes you as uncomfortable as you have been with this. I am always here.
way to stick to your guns.
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