my opinions don't matter. they are not going to change the world. not everyone lives like i do or how I think they should. decisions and choices are just that and we own them even if we don't admit to them. I am a bitch and sometimes I wonder if I am a nice person
- NO this is not about Mountain and Teaghan. This is about me. Mountain and I are fine. he knows where I stand with Teaghan. I compromised. She can come to my house for SHORT visits and not everytime he has her. I will Not walk on eggshells and treat her with the kid gloves he does. I will not stand being second guessed or talked badly to, be him, if/when I scold the girl.
this was jsut about me and me keeping my judgemental mouth shut!
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I wonder those same things... about you... just kidding... about myself (hope that made you smile). I feel like that often.... especially when I realize someone hasn't appreciated my honesty.
I wish sometimes I didn't FEEL judgemental... I'm not sure how to control it either! :)
you did make me smile!
I don't think you can ever stop "feeling" like that. I know I have tried and failed. I know there have been a couple times in my life when i ignored my gut. My judgements and ended up in a lifestyle and making other "bad" choices becasue of acceptance. Not only of myself but of others. These choices that have enhanced my life. I think its a nice place to visit, but I don't want to live there, in acceptanceville. So judgements protect me, and I know what from
I have worked very hard over the years to have a littel more tact when being honest. Or jsut keeping my mouth shut.
But every once in awhile I just LETr'RIP! and boy i have a nasty tongue.
I have been working on mending relationships were I shot off my big mouth and working on being less judgemental, more accepting and biting my tongue. It's really hard because of how I was raised. It's a constant effort for me... I'm trying! I've been really trying to myself in other peoples shoes. You can do it!
oh I know I can keep my mouth shut when I am concsience of it. but I can Never stop my mind from thinking what it thinks.
Like when Mntn got a call today from his friend - my once a year friend - asking him if he knew where to get some Mary Ann for her mom. All i could think I could think of was "trash trash trash" This is the same mother adn daughter team that.......ok first mom(Bobbi) had my once a year friend Robbi when she was a teen. Then Robbi started her brood of 3(all different dads) when she was a teen. Now her Second is having her first baby at 17! and everyone is surprised!
How the hell do I turn my mind off with the whole thing?!! you can't! but I kept my mouth shut and watered my plants.
mending.........its ok
I think the line to learn is when your opinion can alter someones reality. It once-a-year friend's case that history is going to repeat itself irregardless of what opinion you voice so don't waste your breath but in your family and with your friends it does count and deserves to be voiced.
you are right Steph and those are wise words.
i just hate the inner talk. That friggin' voice taht can predict everything! SHUT-UP SHUT-UP SHUT-UP makes me carzy cuz its not ever wrong! Frig
Oh, I think that stuff all the time; Why are you not a better parent? Why would you not WANT to be more organized? Do you realize you are raising a serial killer???? All those thought have to stay on the inside though, because,really, could you change anything about their reality if you spoke them? Probably not. Therefore why waste your time.
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