I don't know sister but, being a first time mom can be pretty overwhelming nevermind twins! Is it possible she is just busy being overwhelmed and expects people to approach her, ask if she needs help? Just a thought. Maybe she is having her own struggles and doesn't have much time to branch out while she is finding her footing. I honestly don't remember inviting anyone over, people just called.
thats just it - have called - turned away - i 'showed' up at the hospital and was turned away there too. She kept her door shut and the hospital and my mom would turn people away.
She deosn't answer her phone. she doens't answer her door. i get being overwhelmed. i get she is in Extreme pain from her section. her instestines are now on the outside of her abdominal wall. her body is totally Effed up. and I get not wanting people to see her like this. But I am her Sister! i am the only sibling here. Charlotte is her only niece .......... itsjust shitty being snubbed like this. i don't want to go hang out at her house. but being turned away .........being told that when I drop the dog off that Sister doens't want any visitors .......... not even so much a peek my head in the door visit .......and i had NO intention of even doing that cuz I KNOW she is recovering from major abdominal surgery. I was totally insulted to be put in my place like that when it hadn't even occured to me to invade their new family space! So Insulted taht they even thought I would pull a manueaver like that. I Get that this was NOT a regular C-section, that this is really scary and really hard, I get that I intimidate her even cuz i flowed thru being a new mom like I'd done it all before, I get it, i know to keep my opinions and my mouth shut.........its just crap.
i was so excited. Charley was so excited. Lyle hasn't even see them! Family means everything to me and I guess its a huge slap in the face that not everyone feels that way besides the part where don't you wnat to show them off? isn't this what you paid thousands of dollars for. Why wouldn;t you want the whole world to see? taking all 200 hundred of you facebook friends along on this journey only to just shut them out along with your ONLY sister!
I am just really hurt. My feelings are hurt. I'll get over it, but I won't forget
its ok - i haven't put all the details out there - its just so shitty. ......... so how would you know?
i heard from my mom last night ...... telling me how she's been there bouncing babies and how wonderful it all is! Great. Telling me about how they went to the doctors and Max had to have his tongue snipped again - WHAT!!!! Mom going on about how great her hubby is with the babies and with Sister in her delicate state .......... Telling me how Missy hasn't had to change one diaper yet ......... telling me how strong Jack is and he holds his head up and wants to roll over and Max just isn't.........telling me how beautiful they are .......... telling me how she is there from early morning till dinner time ....... Thanks mom ..........
I have only shared with Steph the details of how my Sister was before she had the babies towards me ....... even when I did get in to the hospital to see them after waiting in the waiting room till Missy said it was ok, only to be called stupid by her .......
its just all been not a nice experience.
but like I said - I'll get over the hurt ........ eventually ........... but i won't forget ........
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hmmm... Which subject are we avoiding?
havne't seen or heard from my Sister
nephews? don't know anything about them.
Seriously? That is tough! Poor Charley!
it super sucks for Charley!
she was so excited for the fresh humans and now.........
I don't know sister but, being a first time mom can be pretty overwhelming nevermind twins! Is it possible she is just busy being overwhelmed and expects people to approach her, ask if she needs help? Just a thought. Maybe she is having her own struggles and doesn't have much time to branch out while she is finding her footing. I honestly don't remember inviting anyone over, people just called.
thats just it - have called - turned away - i 'showed' up at the hospital and was turned away there too.
She kept her door shut and the hospital and my mom would turn people away.
She deosn't answer her phone. she doens't answer her door.
i get being overwhelmed. i get she is in Extreme pain from her section. her instestines are now on the outside of her abdominal wall. her body is totally Effed up. and I get not wanting people to see her like this. But I am her Sister! i am the only sibling here. Charlotte is her only niece .......... itsjust shitty being snubbed like this.
i don't want to go hang out at her house. but being turned away .........being told that when I drop the dog off that Sister doens't want any visitors .......... not even so much a peek my head in the door visit .......and i had NO intention of even doing that cuz I KNOW she is recovering from major abdominal surgery. I was totally insulted to be put in my place like that when it hadn't even occured to me to invade their new family space! So Insulted taht they even thought I would pull a manueaver like that. I Get that this was NOT a regular C-section, that this is really scary and really hard, I get that I intimidate her even cuz i flowed thru being a new mom like I'd done it all before, I get it, i know to keep my opinions and my mouth shut.........its just crap.
i was so excited. Charley was so excited. Lyle hasn't even see them! Family means everything to me and I guess its a huge slap in the face that not everyone feels that way
besides the part where don't you wnat to show them off? isn't this what you paid thousands of dollars for. Why wouldn;t you want the whole world to see? taking all 200 hundred of you facebook friends along on this journey only to just shut them out along with your ONLY sister!
I am just really hurt. My feelings are hurt. I'll get over it, but I won't forget
Okay.... I would be totally hurt too! I didn't realize that you had made that much effort. :( Sorry!
its ok - i haven't put all the details out there - its just so shitty. ......... so how would you know?
i heard from my mom last night ...... telling me how she's been there bouncing babies and how wonderful it all is! Great.
Telling me about how they went to the doctors and Max had to have his tongue snipped again - WHAT!!!!
Mom going on about how great her hubby is with the babies and with Sister in her delicate state .......... Telling me how Missy hasn't had to change one diaper yet ......... telling me how strong Jack is and he holds his head up and wants to roll over and Max just isn't.........telling me how beautiful they are .......... telling me how she is there from early morning till dinner time ....... Thanks mom ..........
I have only shared with Steph the details of how my Sister was before she had the babies towards me ....... even when I did get in to the hospital to see them after waiting in the waiting room till Missy said it was ok, only to be called stupid by her .......
its just all been not a nice experience.
but like I said - I'll get over the hurt ........ eventually ........... but i won't forget ........
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