Monday, March 19, 2007

LoVe

When do you fall in love?
How do you know thats what it is?
I used the feelings and the word so freely last year. Before that I was careful who I loved and when.
I used the Word with............... Now I want to use it with Mountain.
HOw do you know when its okay to say it?
would it be an insult now? Would he be offended? Would he believe me! Have I used it too much?

I know there are lots of different loves. Many ways to love, but which is which and what one am I feeling now? he says he's not ready to love me yet. So what does it mean to him?!!! I couldn't talk about it. Memories and fears flooded my mind and all I wanted to do was push. push him out of my life!
One thing I know fersure.....when I love I love forever. I don't 'fall out of love' I don't believe that happens. I believe the love evolves and changes, but it is always there.
Do I say it to him? Once its out there......
If I don't say it can i still run...........run the other way. Out of this relationship.
I don't want to run. He is in my heart and I am happy.
Do i love him? i Don't know. i am so confused

12 comments:

duff said...

the only thing running through my head right ow is the song "i wanna know what love is". i'm not sure whether that's good or bad.

shari said...

I'm thinking that if you are confused and unsure, then it is not time to share yet.

Most likely, you are second guessing yourself, and overthinking. I think it should come out naturally and spontaneously. and the only way for that to happen is to stop trying to analyze it, and just experience it. But that is easier said than done for analytical personality like yours.

Just try to enjoy that happy feelings and you will know when the time is right. You will feel it.

jewels said...

i agree with fruitloop -
if it is love you would know and would not question it...

Kristi said...

I guess I didn't make the question clear.
i know I love himand I am ready to tell him....however....he is not ready to hear it and then that means I'm not gonna heare it back....so thats when I start to question myself.
Thats when all the old wounds open.
Cause if I say it....and he can't or doesn't love me....then I owe it to myself to dump him.
and thats not what I am ready to do. Thats the choice I am not willing to make.
so the love for me is there, but if its not for him...........
maybethat made it even harder to explain. Or understand.
Thats why I am confused.....
Does that make any sense at all?

jewels said...

that makes more sense -
but how do you know he is not ready to hear it?

Kristi said...
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Kristi said...

will you let me love you....

do you feel like you want to....
silence....cause I'm not ready to yet...more silence
......and lots of noise in my head all of a sudden.

I said nothing. He cuddled up to me closer spooning my body, held my hand and kissed the back of my neck.
Today i took the day off cause its spring break. Charley and I had a very full day planned.
He called this morning to invite Charlotte and I to lunch and a tour of his work. Caught us in time
I blew some stuff off and we went!

I think he is more scared of falling in love and admitting it than I am of not getting it

Winnie said...

I felt love..true love about 5 years a go and it was all in a kiss that I can remember today..a moment..MY moment it may not have been his but I knew the feeling was resiprocated ,if not then, then just before or after...
The butterflies still get me when I think of that time..
Holy shit, have we had our challenges(and more to come)
Neither of us our quiters,we are strong willed, and both speak our mind(like some one else I know!!)
Kristi you ..speak your mind, and ..you hold nothing back...
Don't analyze..just say what's on your mind.
YOU ARE NOT CONFUSED!!!!! Your in love...and you deserve it.
By the way..how could he not be in love with you and Charly?
Jump in the deep end baby!

Anonymous said...

don't complicate. just enjoy.

Kristi said...

Hey Buddy!!

Nice to see you

Family Of Five said...

Love isn't a feeling so much, it's a level of commitment. There will be many days when you don't feel 'love' you feel anger, frustration... so on.... love is the commitment to stick through it together. You are ready to say it when you aren't scared of the response you get back. Love is not selfish right??? Tell him because you want him to know and feel it not because you want it in return. My hubby and I still love eachother even when the other one isn't feeling 'love' towards the other. I also still love my kids even when they don't love me so much..... "I hate you!".... "I love you enough for both of us". You will figure it out and you just know! :)

Chris said...

Why does he have to say I love you back? I mean if he does not, does that mean he never will, or maybe he is just not ready yet?