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I let it bother me for the last few days.
i am not going to anymore.
I am in a Fabulous relationship.
I have a good job and one that I love.
The Pinks have done a good job and I feel better than I have in years.
Charlotte is doing amazing in school.
WE will be able to purchase a house or something next year.
So in 2009 we can put some growth into our family.
This is what We are working towards.
Of course nothing is in stone and the skeletal plan could change. Depending on what life has to throw.
So there.
I've been seriously thinking over the last few months about handing over My Blogging Goddess Status and maybe hanging it up.
I struggle with things to Blog-On about anymore.
they come few and far between now.
And i am working more and doing more around the house. Charlotte has discovered home-made cookies are pretty good.
And I tell Mountain everything now.
WE talk a couple times a day. Soemtimes about stuff. Sometimes about nothing. Just touching base.
Its really nice to have that. He's my Best Friend and it is really very Neat!
So I find that not only do I not have the same stuff floating around in my head anymore that I need to get out. But that I just don't have as much to say.
Now see i already basically said that and I said it again!
Well the Rest of you Blog On!
I'm gonna Blog Read!
*Cheers*
25 comments:
I would miss you if you stopped blogging, but totally understand. Have you considered just blogging less? It is ok to post infrequently.
Don't stop blogging!! You don't have to 'entertain' us it's just nice to hear what is new and exciting, what is happening in your life. It's also nice to vent sometimes about things that bother you and know that you are not the only one who feels that way. I like hearing about your work, baby girl, mountain and all that stuff! I know the comment that bothers you and I don't think it was a knock against you as a mother or your age. You mentioned before you were waiting for a ring on your finger first. :) We still like to hear about all the good in your life too! As long as you, Mountain and Queen are all on the same page then anyone else's opinion doesn't really matter. Do what is right for you and your new family!!
Yup posting infrequently is not really a bad thing. Just an update for people to see what's happening - doesn't always have to a have a reason behind it, or some drama in it.
Good though that you have a person to bounce all of your thoughts from - its a real bonus in life to be able to really talk to your partner.
I think blogging less will do for now.
I jsut don't "need" to blog like i used to before mountain came along. Now that I have him to tell all my stuff too......
WEll the comment upset me most because i didn't find there was any basis for it. And when I called it out and personally mailed...i not only didn't get any answers I got Full frontal insults.
but whatever.
Like you said FoF. If we are all on the same page....
Yup its Ring Mortgage Baby.
Or maybe Mortgage Ring Baby. In any event...Baby is last.
I have a business to run!
I don't actually know.... but from what I gather, she has seen you through the best of times and the worst of times.... maybe more of the latter before mountain came around. She has probably seen you go through many relationships, bad ones. I also think she cares a whole lot about not just you but your girl too! I don't know the whole story... maybe all the ups and downs just has her worried about you?!?!? Just remember good friends are the ones who tell us there is brocoli between our teeth! :) Like I said though.... your family is most important and what you guys think means the most! Hugs!
I was just really hurt and surprised. she hasn't been a fan of Mountain from the start.
but he is a good man. Hardworking, caring, and thoughtful.
I know about the brocoli thing.
and I care for her very much, but right now all she is doing me is telling me not to smile. She's not telling me why....
smile if you like ..frown if you don't like ...
No one is pushing feelings upon any one else..
I think it's really great to just be heard..and know people have listened..and if you're excited about something maybe the listeners could just pretend to be just as excited..even if they're not...
I hate hen someone just has to be 'the devils advocate'
just share my happiness god damn it!!
My mother alays said that is you don't have anything nice to say ..don't say anything at all
You are going to do whatever you want to do anyway. I notice that a few of your long term friends are awfully quiet about this subject, perhaps it is more than just me that feels this way. No judgement guys, I just can't watch it happen. I have to say something.
bur you are not saying anything!
just flap, flap, flap with the no don't do it but no reasons to back it up.
if planning an expansion on our family in two years is a problem than I'd like to know why.
I think I deserve that.
Back up the comment Steph......
you can't hurl insults like self absorbed and self destructive without the why
BOTH sides of the situation is hard!!! I'm guessing she has witnessed you self destruct in the past. It is hard watching someone you care about make decisions you feel are wrong....or watch them fall over and over! It is also hard to be the one everyone points to as a failure and doesn't give the chance for success. As a parent when our kids are learning to walk it's hard to watch them fall over and over... it doesn't mean we give up and never teach them to walk. Patterns are patterns and they are hard to break. Perhaps Kristi has made some bad partner decisions in her past... it doesn't mean you give up trying to find a partner. Part of being a friend is accepting someone...faults and all. The other side is perhaps you are entering the same old habits Kristi. I really don't know. All I know is obviously someone has some concerns... not just hey this guys is ugly don't date him..... concerns and maybe you need to open your heart and listen openly first then either take it or throw it away.... it is your life to live. But don't just rush ahead if someone who really loves you and has seen you make many mistakes in the past is telling you to slow down! And maybe I should just mind my own business too! I see you happy and I am glad. But I have a friend who's happiness is often short lived, her ups and downs are like the weather.... I love her dearly and accept her the way she is. I disagree with some of her choices as a parent, as a girlfriend and as a sister..... but she is a good friend to me!
point being....give me the reasons.
this is what she has not done.
Apparently she has a 'list' of reasons.
What are they?
If I din't give a shit what her opinion was I wouldn't be aksing.
Jesus, Kristi I can't believe you are making me do this...
* You JUST got together.
* You are on high doses of anti depressants and anti anxiety meds that would take more than a year to flush from your system.
*You have been in love three times this year why is this different?
*You both have major financial issues.
* you are older which increases your risks DRAMATICALLY to have a child with special needs.Did you even think of the reprocussions of that?
* Not even a year ago you freaked out while on a drunken alchol induced rage which resulted in you assaulting a friend.Among other things.
* Not even a year ago you spoke of not being able to handle the one child you have now.
*you guys don't even live together and haven't even approached commitment.
* Other things that I don't care if you are pissed I won't discuss here
So be pissed, this is reality and I love you too much to watch you do this. Not now, not next year...it is too soon. Perspective is everything.
Finally!
Now was that so hard?
it really wasn';t for me. Accept the age part. Cause thats the only part that really means anything.
thank you for your honesty.
just wish you were educated.
The average age of a new mom these days is 37......
But FOF you alays say it so well
The average age of a new mom these days is 37......
But FOF you alays say it so well
Once again, that sounds about right. I find your education comment entertaing though.
Steph
Kristi! No! Play nice!!! This isn't about her.... it's about you, and you asked! Steph brought up some really good points .... HOWEVER you never said you plan on getting pregnant before living together or the commitment part. A plan is good, just don't get too ahead of yourself. You have dealt with a lot in the last year....men being one of them. But that doesn't mean you don't go in whole hearted. A relationship should start off by putting yourself in 100%! So this could be no different than the others ..... but it could be and you won't know unless you give it your all! We all have moments of not being able to handle our own kids! Give it your all, take it slow, have a plan.... but for goodness sakes.... BE NICE! :)
Well, I'm happy for you girl! Some caution is always good advice, but hopefully given without raining on the parade.
Make loose plans 'cos none of us know what life is going to throw at us.
One liner blogs are better than no blogs! Keep it up if you can.
I applaud Steph for her honesty! I agree with everything she has said but felt it was not my place to come forward and say anything. I do not "know" you as well as she does - I do not "know" every detail of what is happening to you or what you went through last year. I do know that when you fall - you fall HARD and FAST. I do know that sometimes love makes us do crazy things...
Have you talked about your "plans" with MM? What does he say about the "baby" issue?
37 is the age of new mothers? where did you find this statistic?
When your kid graduates highschool you would be over 55 - no thanks - but that is just me. It is your life...
Mountain and I are on the same page with everything.
the only thing that holds any water is the age thing.
something else Mountain and I have already discussed and if decisions have to be made we will make them.
So what if I fall hard and fast.
now i have someone that has fallen with me.
as far as the huge doses of meds....its hardly anything and doesn't take a year to flush. Already spoke to my doctor about it.
next year before we get on with the end of the plan I go for lots of tests to make sure everything will be healthy.
Other than that. The rest of the list is null and void in my current life.
Thanks MrsPaul, Bert, Aggie, FoF, Muck for your support
your back! nice. I am a total silent reader, (mostly - unless I get riled up ;)
You sound happy, and that is the important thing.
Nice to have you back!
and now Jewels is gone...
what the heck?
Well the sat is from the hospital staff and midvives who were with me during the birth of my boys recently....most us us have careers before kids now and then plan for families...my mom as really young as most of ours were....hey and any way 40 is the new 30!!!
there was a bit on Gill Deacon a cuple weeks ago about the new age of mom'z.
thanks Lee. Yes I am here for now.
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